By: Jenna Mahoney-Pierce
With only a few days before my little girl turns 1 I have become rather reflective of the past year. First time Mommy-hood; the sleepless nights, dirty diapers, lost binkies, smiles, giggles, messes, tears (happy and sad), and thousands of milestones. Baby has been pretty busy…and so have I…and all you other Mommies and Daddies. You have sacrificed what was once “normal” to a life of unidentifiable stains, messy hair, and the feeling of accomplishment when you remembered that you really did brush your teeth before leaving the house.
And over this past year, I have heard thousands upon thousands of judgmental comments…but lately the most popular in my life is “Really? Why are you doing all that? Its her first birthday, she’s not gonna remember it; its just for you!”
I smile and shrug the best I can. Enough is enough! On behalf of all the Mommies and Daddies that have heard this, hearing it currently, or will hear it eventually, I would like to say…”Darn Straight it’s for Me!”
I have kept this tiny human alive and in one piece for 365 days! Go Me! I personally have also showered most of those days, haven’t let the laundry pile up to the ceiling, cooked meals, tried to keep my house clean while not killing my husband–if that doesn’t deserve a party, I don’t know what does.
So no matter what you want to do for your baby’s 1st birthday, DO IT! Rent that hall, get a smash cake, backyard BBQ, professional photos, balloonist, fully catered, potluck, DIY, party planner…or just a quiet day with just your immediate family with a cake (or no cake at all), do what YOU want.
This is the only birthday you get to do the way you want before your little one gets to have any opinion…take advantage. I know I did. We are having an Alice in Wonderland inspired Tea Party. We are having it at our house with an open house policy for people to come and go as they please between 1-4 (so then that way I don’t have to serve a big meal). Light refreshments, activity for the kids and done.
I am a huge DIYer so I went a bit crazy. Tissue paper flowers with bread and butterflies, the white rabbit and a larger than life pocket watch, playing card garland and hanging card orbs are just some of the few things I found on Pinterest that I just HAD to do for decorations.
I have thrown myself 100% into this event, not just because I am a DIYer. It is also because my baby is turning 1.
It is emotional for any parent to look back at all of the photos and videos that were taken over the year–yes, I admit I have over 1,000 pics saved on my computer. As happy as I am to celebrate my child, I am also grieving over the fact that I no longer have a baby. Sure, I have a whole new set of events to look forward to in toddlerhood, but this chapter in my daughter’s life is coming to a close. Having this party the way I want is therapeutic; I can prolong this celebratory feeling through planning, decorating, baking and in my mind have the time I need before everyone else can celebrate with her.
I accomplished just as much as my baby did, and I am going to celebrate it the way I want. There may be comments, but I can say with 100% certainty that I do not care what anyone else thinks. This is how I am going to make it though my daughter turning 1. For anyone else still reading, celebrate how you want and don’t let anyone else tell you differently!