By: Sue Anganes
I watched her toss her bouquet, hop into the car, and speed off towards her new life with her husband. Her feelings of joy and excitement were contagious. We had all been looking forward to this day, and it was indeed a great celebration. There is certainly great satisfaction as a mom to see your adult children embarking on their new lives, starting their own families, and establishing new careers. I was so happy for her and her husband, and wished heaps of blessings upon them as a couple.
The Monday morning after the wedding my emotions got the best of me. Tears filled my eyes all day when I remembered that my daughter was now on her own and no longer coming back to live under my roof. You would think I was used to this situation; her older three siblings were also married and gone from our home, but I still cried a few tears from the change.
There is one thing for certain as a mom: things will always change. Our babies wean and don’t want to nurse anymore, our toddler moves out of his crib, our five-year-old leaves on the school bus for the first time, our teens graduate from high school and then leave for college. Eventually, the kids get married and start families of their own. We often tend to want to freeze time and stay right in the moment that we are living in, but we know that’s not possible.
Since I’ve been a mom for over thirty-three years, I can attest to the fact that we can enjoy every stage of our children’s lives. I am enjoying my adult children as much as I enjoyed them when they were little. Of course it’s different, but it is still wonderful.
With my youngest two sons now ages seventeen and twenty, it won’t be too long before they are out from under my roof and starting new lives on their own. When they do leave, I’m sure I’ll also be as proud and excited for them as I was for their four older siblings. I’ll also be shedding a few tears.