Making time for yourself

Making time for yourself
January 9, 2015 Our Circle of Moms

By: Jacqueline Koutsoufis


As most of you know I have five very different, but very wonderful children. Finding time to spend alone with my husband isn’t always the easiest thing to do. So when a good friend of mine offered to take all our children for the night, I jumped at the opportunity! It doesn’t seem so crazy until you factor in that they also have three of their own, plus their foster child. So in total they had nine glorious children, ranging in ages from 1-12.

These two wonderful friends of ours, who have basically become a part of or family over the past few years, have helped me realize that I really need to take some alone time with my husband. Over the years, they have continuously reminded me that in order for my husband and I to have a healthy relationship, we need to spend time together to work on us! They also have reminded me that it’s ok for me to need help with my children and it’s okay to take sometime for myself. You see I’ve always been fully focused on my children and my children alone. I rarely would ask anyone for help or to babysit. I not only felt guilty about leaving them, but thought since they were my own children and therefore my responsibility. I worked hard for years raising them the best way I could- getting them ready for school, potty training, constant minor health struggles with my youngest, and years of appointments and therapy for my son. I have learned (with some friendly nudging) that it’s ok to take a step back and say I need a small break.

I have been so stressed the past couple of weeks between my daughter being sick, her surgery date getting closer, and an ABA therapist in my home four days a week. That when my friend offered to take all five kids for the night it was like winning the lottery!! I knew they would have a great night at their Auntie’s and  they would be safe and well taken care of. I have got to say, it was one of the most relaxing 24 hrs I’ve had in a long time. I didn’t have to worry about rushing through a meal, getting the kids to bed on time, or someone barging in during my shower. To simply sit and watch a movie on my couch and knowing that no one would wake up and interrupt that movie was wonderful. Oh, and let me just tell you about how great it was to sleep in past 6am and to wake up slowly in my own bed, meaning I didn’t have to jump up as soon as the alarm went off to start the day. Never mind the peace and quiet that I enjoyed with my cup of morning coffee. Especially without any screaming children shouting their demands for the day.

This simple gesture has rejuvenated me. It was exactly what I needed. I find that I have more patience for my children, which is exactly what I needed. I would highly recommend making time for not only yourself, but for you and your partner, to ensure that you’re not neglecting your own needs because it will make a positive impact in other parts of your life.

Comment (1)

  1. HMCondo 7 years ago

    I couldn’t love this more. Unless it is for an appointment, it is rare for us to ask for a babysitter. Aside for Christmas shopping, but that is again, for us to get stuff for the kids!
    Luckily my mother-in-law asks to have 2 of my kids every 6 weeks or so and this weekend, my 2 year old even asked to sleep over there when she asked the girls. And our time off plan is looking the same, quiet night inside with movies and not being forced up in the morning. 🙂 it is the simple things, right? 😉

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