By: Mandy Adams, guest blogger
There are things that no one really tells you about babies, things like the calm before the crying. Sure you see all the movies and TV shows talking about the sleepless nights, but I felt underprepared for that period of time: the Period of PURPLE Crying.
Those first 3 weeks had been pretty perfect. My beautiful baby boy had been so good during the night, only waking up once a night to eat; and hardly ever crying during the day or night, just a perfectly peaceful, little angelic napper. I thought it would always be like that, where I still showered and got things done around the house, where I just sat staring at his beautiful face as he peacefully napped.
I think we all see where this is headed…
Right around the 3 week mark, everything changed. My once peaceful, happy baby wouldn’t stop crying at night. Nothing we did was soothing him no matter how hard his Daddy and I tried. We’d try and try all night and eventually he’d tire himself out by crying and then wake up to do it all over again. I thought something was wrong with my baby; I was exhausted; I thought I was a failure as a parent, so I made an appointment with the doctor to find out what was wrong and was told about the period of Purple Crying.
The acronym PURPLE describes specific characteristics of an infant’s crying during this phase and lets parents and caregivers know that what they are experiencing is normal, and although frustrating, is only temporary and will eventually come to an end. And my favorite is that the word period tells us parents that the this phase is only temporary and will come to an end.
We’re still in our PURPLE period, but thanks to our great doctors, we know that an end is in sight. It doesn’t always keep us from snapping at each other since we’re frustrated and exhausted, but it does help us to know that it’s not our fault or our baby’s fault.
It also doesn’t make him any less beautiful and perfect (just slightly less angelic at times).