By: Jacqueline Koutsoufis
Well, I’m three weeks into my new job and things seem to be going pretty well! My children and husband have adjusted pretty well. However, other family members have been very opinionated about this. They now see me as self absorbed and selfish, despite being a stay at home mom for the first 13 years of my marriage and children’s lives.
To be honest, having another mother say this is just awful. It’s already hard enough feeling guilty making a leap into a full time career and to know that your own family doesn’t support you and your choices is hard, but to know that your own child is more supportive and understand than other individuals warms my heart. Knowing that I’m raising understanding, open minded, and loving young human beings is mind blowing. I love the support I get from my husband, my children, and close friends. Their support has made the transitions bearable.
They understand that I’m not only doing this for myself, but for them, too.
I have never judged a working mother for wanting to take care of her family financially. And I have never judged a stay at home mother for being able to stay home with her children. In fact, while I was a stay at home mom, I wanted a job! There were times when I was truly not happy being around little beings all day and I wanted to have that few hours of adult interaction.
Judging what you don’t understand or don’t want to understand just leads to hurt feelings and missed opportunities. If it’s not hurting you or your family then what does it matter to you?
I was hurt that someone would think of me as self absorbed and selfish, but I stepped back and decided I don’t care. My family is not being hurt by his decision and in fact, I’m helping hundreds of people at work on a daily basis. My family is not suffering…They are actually thriving! They are learning to do knew things. If I’m selfish for doing something that makes me happy after years of putting other first then I guess I’m selfish and I will just have to learn to deal with someone calling me selfish for being happy!