What Every Parent of a First Year College Student Must Know

What Every Parent of a First Year College Student Must Know
August 20, 2010 jflojennings

It’s that time of year where some Merrimack Valley Moms are going to see their kids off to college for the first time.  It can be a tough change.  We’d love to hear from area moms about their experience letting go.  Sound off in the comments, below.  Who knows?  We may contact you for a guest post on the Merrimack Valley Mom Blog!

Letting go doesn’t mean not being a part of your child’s (don’t call them that, anymore!) life.  Collegeview.com is a great site that helps college students and their parents with this huge transition.  Here is a snippet from What Every Parent of a First Year College Student Must Know:

As a parent, you want your student to succeed in college, but how can you help? Part of the college experience is learning to be independent and self-reliant, but you can still help your student as they grow toward total independence. Here are some of the areas your student may need help in, and what you can do to assist them.

It’s a great post, and I encourage you to read the rest of the column, here.

Whether your child is going to be a freshman in high school or college, there’s some valuable information.  Share your tips below.  How did you make the transition from home to dorm life?  What did you do as a parent to stay involved?  To let go?

Have a great weekend, moms!

Comment (1)

  1. Laurie Lotti 9 years ago

    Hello, I have an 18yr old daughter who is leaving for college in the next few weeks. The feelings associated with this transition are powerful and plentiful.
    When she started receiving acceptance letters we were so proud and excited for her. We celebrated each acceptance and raced to the mailbox every afternoon. We visited her top 4 campuses and had a great time on the road trips, campus tours and enjoyed long talks in the car. We talked about everything from friends, upcoming events such as prom and graduation, the campuses, the pros and cons of each school and sometimes got on each other nerves. It was a wonderful feeling.
    Then the stress of the senior year started to take their toll. I suddenly was in the way. She would be happy one minute and stressed out the next. We rode the rollercoaster of prom shopping, senior pictures, senior awards night, community service project presentation, final exams, graduation rehearsals, and finally graduation. It took so much of our time to get through it all.
    During the summer I would start to cry thinking of her leaving. I would tear up just talking about it with friends. I had finally had time to realize my little girl would not be home at night. No more waiting up and hearing about her night out with her friends or boyfriend. No more giggling as she played jokes on her Dad. No more “momma what’s for dinner”. How lonely I felt and she was still here. The feelings of despair were their strongest at the accepted student weekend. I started to snap out at her during registration and had to go for a walk to get under control. I apologized but the damage had been done. I thought she didn’t care about my feelings and boy was I wrong.
    During a meeting with her faculty, I introduced myself and the department head spoke very highly of her. She mentioned how my daughter had talked about why she chose her major, summer job, her Aunties who are also teacher, and me. ME? I asked. What could she possible say about me? The faculty member said that my daughter expressed that she was worried about me. I was taking her leaving hard and it was affecting her. Oh my. How could I have been so selfish? This was her time to enjoy and I was affecting it. The woman shared some great advice on separation and spoke from her own experiences as a mom and educator. She was a caring woman and I felt better that she would be an active participant in my child’s education.
    Now the summer has been spent buying dorm and classroom supplies, college paperwork, and that wonderful tuition payment. She is ready to go even if I am not.
    I know she will be successful in her endeavors and look forward to her breaks and trips home. I know I will be emotional after she leaves but that is all part of letting go.

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